Stop Taking Advice From Everybody

Everyone has an opinion and we all deserve to express ours. However, taking the opinions of others and holding them as truths within our own lives is a sign that we may not know what we actually stand for, our true values and beliefs. I lived a majority of my young life in this place.

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For some reason, I felt as if everyone else had answers that I myself did not have. I formulated  my own opinions off of the opinions of others and the saddest part about it was most of the people I listened to had no idea what they were talking about.

I used to take relationship advice from so-called “influencers” who had never actually held a healthy relationship, financial advice from people with very little money, and life advice from those who did not even value their own. Thus, most of the opinions I later held were subconscious; though I viewed myself as a “strong-minded” person, I caught myself speaking like the individuals who I surrounded myself with and listened to (both on the internet and in person).

There is no problem in taking advice from others, in fact it is necessary in most cases, but to take advice from just anyone on any subject is as naive as asking your english professor to teach you french.

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It is ok to check the credentials of an individual before you take their advice. If you knew one of your friends liked to sleep around, would you take their advice on how to find a monogamous relationship? Or if you knew your grandma was fiscally irresponsible, would you ask her how to invest your money? If you answered yes to either question, then we have some deeper work to do.

Otherwise, continue to look within yourself for questions and go to those who are qualified for the answers.

Tinashe Hwande

Edited by. Tayla Hasselbach

 

What Is Leadership?

Leadership is inspiring. It is taking a stand and motivating others to think, create, accomplish — whatever the task may be. It is creating an open space where effective communication and compromise may occur in order to confidently reach a goal in a timely manner. It is taking on the responsibility of the outcomes of those decisions and facilitating reflection on what could be done better in the future. It is doing all of these things from a pure heart with the sole intention of helping others be the best person they can be in the world.

While pondering who has demonstrated leadership in my life, my sophomore 2 clinical instructor, Amber Quelvog, came to mind. She was one of the best teachers I have ever had and it is through her leadership that I grew exponentially as a nurse this past semester. She was a leader in that she inspired us to be our own leaders, to trust ourselves, and to feel confident and in the right place on the floor in the hospital. She led not by telling us what to do but by guiding us as we used our critical thinking skills to solve the issue at hand on our own. She facilitated our self-reflection as well as gave constructive criticism in a positive manner. I truly look up to her and hope to be a nurse, teacher, and leader like her.

Nursing School Archives (May 2015)

By: Tayla Hasselbach