Everyone has an opinion and we all deserve to express ours. However, taking the opinions of others and holding them as truths within our own lives is a sign that we may not know what we actually stand for, our true values and beliefs. I lived a majority of my young life in this place.
For some reason, I felt as if everyone else had answers that I myself did not have. I formulated my own opinions off of the opinions of others and the saddest part about it was most of the people I listened to had no idea what they were talking about.
I used to take relationship advice from so-called “influencers” who had never actually held a healthy relationship, financial advice from people with very little money, and life advice from those who did not even value their own. Thus, most of the opinions I later held were subconscious; though I viewed myself as a “strong-minded” person, I caught myself speaking like the individuals who I surrounded myself with and listened to (both on the internet and in person).
There is no problem in taking advice from others, in fact it is necessary in most cases, but to take advice from just anyone on any subject is as naive as asking your english professor to teach you french.
It is ok to check the credentials of an individual before you take their advice. If you knew one of your friends liked to sleep around, would you take their advice on how to find a monogamous relationship? Or if you knew your grandma was fiscally irresponsible, would you ask her how to invest your money? If you answered yes to either question, then we have some deeper work to do.
Otherwise, continue to look within yourself for questions and go to those who are qualified for the answers.
Edited by. Tayla Hasselbach